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Maintaining Control of Your Subconscious

The process of Functional Emotional Fitness™ immediately generates dramatic results unseen in any other form of behavior change. The big issue is maintenance after you have established your initial results. There are several variables whether an unwanted behavior will, if ever, come back. Age, gender, the amount of physical abuse, and how the behavior was learned to begin with are all factors. Let us start with age. Once past the age of 40, a behavior is going to be more difficult to restructure. Women seem to have about 10 to 15 years longer than men in regard to their ability to restructure in a short period of time. In other words, men get stuck in a behavior at a much more dramatic level at a younger age. The success rate goes down for men over the age of 50 and for women over the age of 60.

You can only move forward if your thinking remains flexible, and you become more inflexible as you age. If you understand this, it will make the process of change easier

It is imperative you follow up on yourself for a minimum of ninety days. After that, you will need to determine for yourself whether you are satisfied with your programming and if not, you need to continue to restructure what simply does not work. Another variable is how you learned the behavior. If there was physical abuse in conjunction with emotional and verbal abuse, this is going to require a greater level of maintenance at any age. When I compiled the first version of this program process in the late 1980’s and put myself through it, the results were so dramatic I thought I had completely fixed myself. The reality was after a few months went by; I had just peeled away a couple of surface layers so I could restructure the true core issues. During the first couple of years, I ran myself through the program about four times per year. I now put myself through it twice a year. It is a wonderful thing to stay tuned up and in control.

The last and probably the most significant variable in maintaining control of your subconscious is up until now you have been programmed to allow the subconscious to run itself. Once you allow the subconscious to again run itself you become subject to any and all information stored in the subconscious and new information you are continually exposed to. It is imperative you have programmed yourself to ask the five key questions every day. The first one is especially important because you can apply it to the two components that bring about an emotional state and behavior.

Ask Yourself Everyday

What am I saying to myself right now?
Is my internal dialogue empowering me?
What pictures am I allowing in the subconscious?
Are my internal pictures keeping me in my most powerful emotional state?

Working with a Functional Emotional Fitness™ Practitioner

Working with an FEF™ Practitioner is your best insurance to establishing and maintaining permanent behavior change. All FEF™ Practitioners are trained to maximize your ability to restructure and maintain your new programming. FEF™ Practitioners have a wide range of expertise. Along with being an FEF™ Practitioner, many of them are also Psychologists, Registered Dietitians, Teachers, Counselors, Personal Trainers and Registered Nurses. If you want to take this program process as far as it can go you may want to work with a FEF™ Practitioner.

Step 1 - The Emotional Checklist

Your maintenance schedule for the Emotional Checklist after the first thirty days needs to be once a month and compare it to the one you filled out the previous month. Keep in mind you can always do more. The only question is how far do you want to take it?

Step 2 - The Subconscious Perspective

Are you happy with the progression of your goals?

If the answer to this question is no, reevaluate your goals. Do you need to upgrade them? If you do upgrade them, make sure you respond to the other statements and question on the Subconscious Perspective in regard to your goals.

Empowering Questions

Have all of your Empowering Questions from the Subconscious Perspective been answered? If they have not, keep asking and then make sure you write them down. If you have answered all of your questions, are you completely satisfied with the answers? If you are not satisfied with the answers restructure the questions until you are completely satisfied with the answer. Example: If one of your questions was…“How can I lose this weight?” You may need to enhance it by asking: “What action do I need to take every day to reach my goal weight and have fun doing it?”

Step 3 - Subconscious Self-Image

Have you been able to maintain your new self-image? If you have not been able to maintain your new self-image, then this is definitely something you will want to work on in the Stop and Replace System. The issue at the top of the Stop and Replace System would be “Not Maintaining My New Self Image.”

Step 4 - The Stop and Replace System

Are you completely happy with the results of the issues you have addressed in the Stop and Replace System? If the answer to this is no, have you been reading this page every day? You must go back and reread the Stop and Replace System every day for at least a week. If you do not notice a difference, then you need to go back and start a new page with new and better benefits, more powerful questions and a more compelling replacement picture. Continue restructuring until you get what you want and have fully reprogrammed yourself.

Has anything else come up you need to restructure?

Step 5 - The Heart of Functional Emotional Fitness™

Have you picked out a minimum of one question per category and are you reading those questions aloud to yourself every day? This is a minimum you need to do every day for the rest of your life. The mind is an incredible multitasking machine so you can ask as many questions as you wish, and it will work on them all.

Step 6 - Food and Fitness Plan

Have there been any foods that were emotionally driven? If the answer to this is yes, did you address the issue in the Stop and Replace System? If you have not, you need to restructure the emotional state that  drove the  behavior until you have reprogrammed yourself.

Step 7 - The Trance-Formation

The most control you will ever assert over the subconscious is when you are in a subconscious state. This is why it is imperative you use the Trance-Formation until you have established your own method of putting yourself in a subconscious state at least once a day.

Your Support System

Once you establish the foundation for reprogramming yourself, it is up to you to implement these tools anytime you discover something that does not work. A client once commented a few months after going through the program her mind was running amuck. I asked her if she attempted to stop and intervene on the process and the answer of course was no. As I stated earlier, if you do not run the subconscious, the subconscious will run itself. If you belong to any group, you can hire an FEF™ Practitioner that will implement, develop and grow your support system. Here again, the fundamental question is…What is going to work the best for me?


Kelly Burris, PhD